Thursday, September 9, 2021

Empathy as someone with autism

 So my grandmother's sister (Janet) died today of a heart attack and I made dinner for my nan, me, my dad and my uncle who was here to comfort her. I found out while on a break from work. I asked if there was anything I could do and she said I could make dinner tonight. So I called in for 6:30PM EST and I made lemon chicken with pasta.

My uncle played phase 10 with my nan and my dad while I was at work (WFH) and cooking too. I put a little too much lemon pepper in but they all said it was good. (It was not, it was palatable at best lol)

Then when we were all going to bed my nan and I were talking and she just looked so tired and I didn't say as much but I went over and gave her a hug and she said thanks, and that I almost made her start crying again.

So here's the autism in my brain asking "do... do I ask her if she wants to hug me and cry for a little? what do I do here?" so I actually asked and we hugged and she cried for a little. I didn't know her sister that well, I met her a couple times as a kid, she was cool. But I can't imagine what it's like to lose a sibling. Like when my brothers die I'm probably gonna be a wreck, provided I'm even still around (unlikely) to see it. It does seem like hugs helped a bit though. She's been through a lot since my pops (grandpa) died, but she just does some dumb stuff sometimes. Like the other day she was standing there with the back door open and then complaining about two flies in the house. Like bruh don't open the door and there won't be flies, simple. I dunno. She's weird lol.

But I literally have no idea what to do for her. I can clean, cook, do the stuff she normally does, but I have zero idea what to do or what to say lol. At least I have the next 3 days off to help her out from work.

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